If Your Ex-Husband Is Dead, Does That Make You a Widow?

P. A. Troutfetter was dead by 1927. That is true.

Whether that technically makes Violet B. Troutfetter his widow as she is shown in this 1927 Denver, Colorado, city directory is another story.

The Troutfetters were divorced in 1901 in El Paso County, Colorado. There are no documents indicating they married again and P. A. (better known as Philip) at some point returned to Thomas County, Kansas, where he died.


1927 Denver, Colorado, City Directory, p. 2199; digital image on Ancestry.com 20 February 2014

It was not unusual for a divorced woman to pass herself off as a widow when in actuality she was divorced. In some locales and time periods a woman may be referred to as a “grass widow,” but that’s not often used on census enumerations.

Always take the term “widow” with a small grain of salt.

The Wm. J. Troutfetter in this post is a brother to P. A. Troutfetter and the Victor E. is Wm. J’s son. Violet and Philip Troutfetter had no children.

Whether having a dead ex-husband makes a woman a widow or not is another question entirely. And…in some cases it doesn’t matter what the answer is as people can tell the census taker or directory information collector any version of reality that they care to.

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One thought on “If Your Ex-Husband Is Dead, Does That Make You a Widow?

  1. I never knew my great grandparents were divorced until I read a newspaper clipping this past summer. This past weekend someone helped me find the court information. It wasn’t pretty. 🙁

    My point, however, I saw a couple years of City Directories when I started my research that indicated she was his widow after he died even though they’d been divorced the previous year. Like you said “people can tell the census taker or directory information collector any version of reality that they care to”

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